A Story Behind The Scene of My Grandmother

Hello.., guys. See you again in here, in my latest post in writing one section. I am going to share a bit about my grandmother biography. I am sorry that I could not satisfy you with the previous post. I hope you can enjoy reading this one. 

I am so thankful that I still have a figure of grandmother that has huge attention to her grandchildren. Actually, I have both of my parents’ mother, on the contrary I don’t have any grandfather. In this case, I would like to share about the biography of my maternal grandmother. I am not going to tell about my paternal grandmother because of our distance. And also my relation with my paternal grandmother is not as close as my maternal grandmother.

My grandmother was born in Gresik, on January 1940. She was born when our country has not been independent yet. She has many stories in her life. Her father died when she was nine. She is the first child of four brother and sister, she has one brother and two sisters. So, she had a responsibility to treat her brother and sisters. She has huge desire of helping her family earned a living. However, she could not cook like the most women did at that time. She used to help her uncle when she was a child. And she also used to have her own flickers company and then she stopped doing it in her age of seventy, it was just several years ago.

Her father was one of the victim of the incident of anti-Chinese in Kediri. Luckily, they could survive the incident and then looking for a help. The incident is never forgotten. She even still could recall it now. She still remembers how they could survive the incident. She still remembers how her father was taken to the forest altogether with other adult Chinese men. Not only took all the adult men, they even had plan to burn all the Chinese’s house there. It was so tragic. Luckily, there were some teenagers who heard that plan and then told all the people, the young men and the women, to prepare for getting away  from the incident. Fortunately, they could escape from the fire. After walked through the forest, then they found some Chinese and got help from them who had secure place for them to survive where the neighbors did not have racist thought.  Although there were some people who were so racist that made some commotions in some places in Indonesia, there were still many of people in Indonesia who had huge care of the victim. All of the victims were protected until their family came and took them home.

It happened in Kediri long time ago in 1949. And then after few days, her uncle came and took them to Gresik where her uncle worked at. He had his own Ice Cream Company. After few weeks, she thought that she could not just stay and did not do anything to help him. Then, she asked him how she could be of help, she asked him forcibly. He saw her will and suggested her to become a cashier in his company. Then she helped him running the company as a cashier. It was her first job in her life.

After several years helping her uncle and knew well how to work in real life, she decided to take her high school in Surabaya, she forgot the name where she studied on. Although she did not have any relative there, she had huge passion to go there and her mother accepted it with one condition. She could not live in Surabaya alone. If she would like to take her study in Surabaya, she had to take a bus or a train to get there. And she agreed it, she sometimes went to school by bus and sometimes by train.

Unfortunately, her study in Surabaya stopped at the middle. Her mother got sick at that time, it was a sick which was difficult to cure at that time. She felt so depressed that she could not focus on her study. She did not want to be separated with her mother so fast after she had lost a figure of father. So, she decided to take care of her lovely mother and left the school. Luckily, her mother had been recovered at the month of six. After that, she did not go to school anymore. She preferred to work and support her brother and sisters than to go to school.

After that, she continued working as a cashier in her uncle’s company. After years, one of her friend offered her to be a Chinese language teacher in elementary school. She would like to try it, she thought that it could give her more money. She had taught Chinese language for five years. Unfortunately her uncle passed away in 1963. And precise at the next month, her mother left her away, too. It was one of her sad moments in her life. She had to be left by two persons that very close to her.

One day while she was teaching, she met my grandfather, who is her late husband, through a person who was the one of the committee of the school that had another job at Film Company. He used to work at the film company. They fell in love at the first sight and they often met each other by then. Day by day they had been passed together, and then he would like to marry her. In 1965, they got married. Before they got married, he suggested her to leave the job and help him running their own film company altogether. 

Although she had been married, she still felt that she had a responsibility to take care of her brother and sisters. So, they grew her brother and sisters together until they got married and lived on their own life. They became one family and bought a house in Surabaya, where I live now. As their company grew and all of her brother and sisters had got married, each of them built their own life.

My grandmother has nine children, which contain five sons and four daughters. Unfortunately, her husband passed away when the age of their marriage was twenty nine. He died because of rolled bus incident when he would like to go to Jakarta to see a festival in Jakarta Fair at that time. What a miserable incident, she has never forgotten with the date, the day when he died was the next day of his birthday.

Praise the Lord, she has treated her children well. Although she had to grow the family without a figure of a husband, she could survive it. However, she feels sad now, because some of her children are away from her and she just could see their face through mobile phone. And also there are some conflicts within her children who live near with her that makes her feels sadder. How sad is that. However, she embed the way how to figure the problems out. She has set in her mind that a happiness in the heart could resist all the bad mood that she has got. 

I think that is all what I can tell you about my maternal grandmother. Thank you for reading my blog. 

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